TALK ABOUT THIS // WEEK 2:
In our social-media-focused era, it’s never been easier to stress out and feel like you don’t measure up. One post, photo, or comment can make us—both students and adults—feel like our lives aren’t as good as others’ lives. Challenge yourself and your teen to take a week off from all social media apps. When it’s over, grab a meal together and talk about your experiences.
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
Philippians 4:6 NLT
DO THIS // MEAL TIME
Choose a meal in the next few weeks to specifically encourage your student. Make something they like (or take them to their favorite restaurant) and ask your family to come to the table ready to share a few things they love or appreciate about your teenager. Have more than one kid? Spread the love by planning a breakfast or weekend lunch for them!
Because when you find yourself the villain in the story you have written
It’s plain to see
That sometimes the best intentions are in need of redemption
Would you agree?
– Death Cab for Cutie, “You Are a Tourist”
So Death Cab for Cutie is a band –just to be clear–one that’s on my playlist a lot these days. As that song played through my earbuds, it hit me that it describes how I sometimes feel about my parenting.
No new parent begins by saying “I hope I mess up my child’s life.” Who ever sets out to be the villain in the story? But at one point or another, we end up there, don’t we?
You leave for vacation but are yelling at the kids before you’re even out of town.
You’re at home most nights, but you’re far too tired to engage.
Your kids repeated patterns of behavior drive you crazy, and you end up resenting them.
Your date night to nurture your marriage starts with an argument and ends with a meltdown
You make empty threats to your kids that would make you wince if you heard other parents make them. But you are all out of tricks, so you threaten anyway.
And sometimes the temptation is to think that our failures should disqualify us as a parent. At least as a good parent. It must certainly disqualify us from being a “godly” parent.
But when you think that, you would be wrong.
What if that actually puts you in line with a great list of characters God used in significant ways? What if that actually qualifies you?
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