DO THIS // BED TIME
The end of the day, right before bed time is a surprisingly vulnerable time for most people. This is also true for your youth. One night this week, pop your head inside their room before lights-out and ask if they want to talk for a few minutes. You could start by talking about your day, and then ask about theirs. Be there just to listen, and only offer advice if you’re asked.
I am a planner and always have been. I carefully constructed a plan for almost every life milestone.
Choosing a graduate school program in high school? Check.
Wedding dress selection? Check (as soon as he proposed)
Birth plan? Check (as detailed as it could possibly be)
For as long as I can remember, I’ve enjoyed planning and longed for routine and stability. In middle school, I sat in the same seat in every class. In college, I decided on my class schedule a semester in advance.
I craved certainty and security.Even though I understood that life was anything but certain, there was something very gratifying about creating order amid chaos. Certainty is associated with clarity and predictability.
According to Dr. David Rock, the author of Handbook of NeuroLeadership, not knowing what will happen next is unsettling for humans and can be debilitating because it requires additional neural energy. Put simply, our brains have to work harder to process the unexpected.
But what happens when life throws you a curve ball that you did not, and could not, plan for?
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