TALK ABOUT THIS:
Whether it was an illness, a personal failure, or a broken relationship, we’ve all faced situations that felt hopeless. But even in the darkest moments, God promises us hope. Talk to your student about a time you felt hopeless. Maybe you prayed for something to happen, and it didn’t. How did God encourage you? How did you maintain hope? Ask them what they’re feeling hopeless about right now.
Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
Philippians 4:6 NLT
What’s one thing you can take off your student’s plate right now? It could be as simple as making their bed for them a few times or buying them a planner and writing in important due dates, appointments, or practice/club times. Think of something—big or small—and make it happen without telling them until it’s done.
Use a dry-erase marker to write notes to your student that they can read before bed at night. That may mean using a bathroom or bedroom mirror. As cheesy as it may sound or feel, reminding them, “You’ve got this. Sleep well!” or, “Rest easy knowing I’m here for you!” will make them smile—even if they don’t share that smile with you.
I’m not going to pretend that this parenting thing is easy.
That if you do all the right things, everything works out great.
Because people don’t work that way.
Relationships don’t work that way.
If you combine A+B, you don’t always get C.
That’s the way algebra works, not parenting.
Sometimes parenting means walking through some smelly, ugly stuff.
Sometimes you lie awake in bed, pleading with God to protect, to change, to stir the heart of your kid.
Sometimes you grieve for the child you once knew.
Or the relationship you once shared.
Because as much as we talk about fighting for the heart, and about pursuing a relationship with your kid, sometimes that relationship is one-sided.
You’re going to give and get nothing in return.
You’re going to love and not receive love back.
You’re going to hurt.
For some, it last for a season. a result of hormones and uncertainty.
For others, it last years.
But you fight for.
Not with your child.
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